Tuesday, November 29, 2022

Children – are they safe with us?

Children need nurturing that encourages development, guarantees their survival, and safeguards them from harm (including physical and sexual abuse). All children have a right to feel secure, but young children, who often lack the tools necessary to avoid danger on their own, have particularly pressing safety demands. Instead, children under the age of eighteen depend on their parents and other main caregivers, both at home and in the community, to make decisions on their behalf to ensure their safety and well-being. At the most fundamental level, children need the care that reflects a variety of emotional and physiological safeguards essential for meeting normative requirements for growth and physical development, such as healthy weight and receipt of needed vaccines. In order to ensure that children develop into healthy adults, it is important to provide them with care that fosters good emotional health and well-being. This includes helping them develop a healthy sense of self, the capacity to deal with stressful circumstances, control their emotions, face their fears, and accept setbacks and failures. Young children rely heavily on their parents and other caregivers for help with emotional regulation, coping, and behavior management. They needed to be offering up with words of encouragement, respect, and love, all the while instilling a feeling of safety inside them. The danger of internalizing behaviors, such as those linked with anxiety and depression, which may hinder children’s adjustment and ability to function successfully at home, at school, and in the community is reduced when parents provide emotional and moral support. Extreme anxiety, helplessness, despair, apathy, melancholy, and withdrawal are among indications of emotional problems that have been identified in young children who do not get enough parental care. When it comes to raising children, we often succeed, but there are also times when our efforts fail. The line between doing what’s best for your child and pushing them in a route that may harm their mental health is thin. Parents often say things like “all is for the best” when they are really doing psychological damage to their children, and they may not even realize it.
• Assessing your kid in comparison to others – Our child’s anxiety and stress levels will rise if we are continually comparing them to other kids. When kids worry about disappointing their parents, it’s usually because they haven’t figured out how to satisfy them. If kids start to think that everyone else is better than they are, it may be damaging to their sense of self-worth. We must understand that every single child out there is special in their own way. Characteristically, they do not share the same qualities and flaws and grow and mature at the same rates.
• Punishing a child – The use of physical punishment, such as slapping or spanking, is not an effective method for altering the behavior of a child. The same principle applies when a child is insulted or humiliated in front of others. Harsh verbal and physical punishments are not only ineffective but also harmful to the physical and mental health of the child in the long run. As a kind of discipline, “time outs” may be useful. If your kid becomes angry and hits his playmate, you should take him or her to a time-out area so that he or she can calm themselves. Use basic phrases like “no punching” and describe them what they did wrong. Again, if your kid has been advised to put the toys in place but is still refusing to do so, you might try taking them away for the day in a calm and patient manner.
• Parental fights in front of child – Children who are exposed to domestic abuse throughout their formative years are more likely to become insecure adults with low self-esteem. Experiencing parents arguing physically or verbally in front of a child may cause extreme mental pain and might lead to early anxiety and other mental health problems in children. Conflicts and arguments are inevitable aspects of marital life; there is simply no way around it. Therefore, we as parents must exercise caution while addressing interpersonal disputes in front of our children.
• Overburdening the child – Every parent wants the best for their children and wants them to excel in all aspects of life. In their quest of greatness, parents often overlook the possibility that they may be doing more harm than good to their children. It is essential that you, as parents, understand how much stress a kid can endure in a healthy manner. If you want your children to be successful, you must create an atmosphere favorable to success and be by their side every step of the way. We must be cautious not to overburden our child with our dreams and goals.
Children aren’t only meant to just follow in their parents’ footsteps, but to build their own routes in life and pursue them with all their energy and passion. All we can do as parents is support them as they discover who they are and where they want to go. To do this, we must equip them with both a solid foundation on which to develop and the freedom to fly. It is critical for us parents to understand that our children are not here to do what we want; think like we do, or become who we want them to be. They are not here to make us feel better about ourselves.
Does this mean parents must not expect from their children? NO, but we should work on helping our children develop healthy relationships with others, confidence in their own abilities, and hope for the future. For their children to flourish in life, parents must patiently encourage them to test the limits of their skills and grow as individuals in any sector they choose to focus on.
Rohan Joy Rana,
Mental Health Worker,
Nirmaan Rehabilitation
Facility, Panjabari, GHY-37

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